Talk me out of it! (or into it)

[blackraven]

Dr. Drew Pinsky, co-host of MTV's "Loveline," told USA Weekend that it takes about six months to know someone well enough before considering marriage. But, he observes that men and women have different mind-sets when it comes to being ready to stroll down the aisle. Men wait for the right time to get married, while women wait for the right partner.

"Men more often decide whether to get married on the basis of where they are in life rather than whom they're with," he told the newspaper. "Many men have an internal script for when they're ready for marriage ... They don't necessarily have to be with the absolute `right' woman. They just need to be with a woman they care very much about at that time."

Added Pinsky, "Some men will make very rapid decisions if they're really ready. Most of the relationships that go on for years and years and years happen because the man is trying to get to the point in his life where he feels ready ... Women often consider marriage in almost every loving, intimate relationship."

Well, I think I'm in the "right place" in my life to think about marriage. Someone, oh, please talk me out of it! Or just tell me it's all in all worth it... :hehehe:

[Anisoul]

Marriage is just like anything in life, it's what you make of it. I don't lokk at it as a matter of time but as a matter or what has taken place in the time that you've been together. I'm in the process of planning marriage after of ten (10!) of being with my significant other. I'd say that all and all, I'm happy.

Time is definately a test of a good/bad relationship/relationshit, though. I have to say in the amount of time that we've been together, we've experienced damn near any and everything that one could experience; heartbreaks, in-love feeling, out of love feeling, death of his mother, death of my father, separation (he was in Iraq for 18 months), break-ups, reconcilation and the list can go on and on.

Bottomline, anything in life worth having is hard and takes work. Love isn't about how you "feel" or about timing, it's your willingness to put aside your own needs and put the other person's first. But once you smooth out the lumps and bumps, you have nothing to look forward to but a beautiful life together. No one is perfect. The key is to find someone who is equally as jacked up as you so that you can create a balance.

If you've met most of my "criteria", I'd say go for it! :LOL:

[amkls704]

I completely agree with Anisoul.

Look at your relationship, and more than anything, even if you can say you are genuinely happy, can you say you are content? Being happy is one thing, but being completely content with someone is a whole other level. If you are perfectly content with where you're at, you've got nothing to lose.

[Anisoul]

How all works out for you!

[EPVQ30]

i took me 5+ years.. i got a great woman. but it took me that long to actually do it.